Amazon: 5.0 out of 5
stars, January 21, 2010
No book could possibly be a more concise or comprehensive guide to
maintaining happy, healthy relationships. Without lengthy, boring psychological
dissertations, the book offers seven caring habits and presents the seven
detrimental ones as well. Both lists are indispensable and fully applicable to
all relationships throughout life!
Kudos!
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This book is a must for anyone that has experienced the loss of a relationship and the lasting effects of that, or for anyone that has the desire to begin a new solid, loving, and lasting one.
If you put into practice the few simple rules and practices that Michael teaches in this book, it is sure to change the whole foundation of your relationship. It will give you confidence not only in your ability to constructively cope with the challenges and trials that arise in most relationships, but also the realization that all that you really have to do to be successful in your relationship, is to choose to be.
I was so amazed by the way my views on relationships changed while reading this book, that I could not wait to share it with the young lady that is in my life now. She was just as excited to learn about Michael’s teachings as I was and she is also working on making these rules a habit for our relationship. If you ever have the opportunity to read these books or hear Michael speak, do so. It is a priceless investment.
George Ruiz,
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Table of Contents
Acknowledgements
Note from the Author
Preface
External Control
The Seven Deadly Habits
Emotions
A Sense of Ownership or Obligation.
What Draws People Together
Quality World
Our Five Basic Needs
Your Frustration Gap
Your Behavior System
Total Behavior
Summary
So What Can You Do?
Control Your Thoughts
Control Your Actions
The Seven Healthy Habits
Seven Caring Habits
Tom and Karen
Penny and Jeff
Nick and Linda
Ray and Patty
David and Judy
Billy and Gail
Be a Relationship Whisperer
What others are saying...
Michael emphasizes the Choice Theory / Reality Therapy axiom that good
relationships and self evaluation are the path to happiness. His book
goes far beyond simple behavioral recommendations to the underlying
causes, specifically the poor relationships in our lives which are the
result of an external control belief system. Michael uses an easy to
read, conversational style, sprinkled with real case studies, which are
direct and hard hitting.
Ivan Honey
Senior Faculty William Glasser Institute
Psychologist
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